In Laws Why is it always the same story they always SUCK!!!

INLAWS suck no matter what culture, race, gender. In-laws really freaking suck. WHY is it always the same story? Well, I have some idea. 2 people from completely different backgrounds, often different cities, different up bringings, different values get together , and the clash ensues. In my case my spouse has this awkward attachment to his mother and sister. I think it is so weird. He speaks to his sister first thing in the morning, they speak at least 10 times a day, and no I'm not exaggerating. I've counted almost 22 calls between he and sister on Valentine's Day. I pray its not a Mckenzie and papa Phillips thing, but in this day and age hell you never know. But, I come from a different background. I love my parents but I never felt the need to tell them every move I make, or share everything about my personal life. In fact they really don't want to know what happens in our marriage. They don't want to interfere. But, His family doesn't see it that way. They want to know what we argue about. At one point his mother moved in a month after we got married. I mean WTF!!!! I couldn't believe what was happening. His sister would pop up with her kids, and then leave them at our house for hours, claiming they were simply visiting us. I'm very private, and enjoy my privacy, and when my spouse and I were dating we spent alot of time alone, and suddenly its like I'm married to the mob, and his sister is John Giotti. If I don't do what she says, she wants me sleeping with the fishes. I mean this bitch went out of her way to instigate alot of problems in our marriage. Well, after the divorce was taken out of court I haven't seen her ugly mug in a long time. His mother thankfully moved out, and the only issue I had was having to listen to them gossip and bad mouth me constantly over the phone. Here's a great lesson I learned from all this.

TIP: though I can't stand my in laws, and i know how frighteningly treacherous my sister in law can be, I know it would have been easier to smile, and tell little white lies. The key to dealing with in laws is fake it. Smile all the time, suck it up. Many times they want to test their limits with you, just as kids do. There's always a good way to handle it. 1. Stay away from them and their drama. Stay so busy they haven't the time to get all inyour business. 2. Shower them with compliments. Always commend them for whatever minute thing you can compliment them on. Pretend its like having a job that you have to brown nose for. The more you suck up the more you get. Not just from your spouse, but you'll notice your psycho inlaws may lay off more.