Monday, October 5, 2009

Stay at home mom blues

So, its another long day in the kingdom of MOM. I have a toddler that seems to crave my attention the minute they see me. I have no problem with providing or garnering my attention to my child, but the minute I do, they don't want to be bothered. I just don't get it. The minute I'm trying to do laundry, cook, clean, vacuum, change the sheets, shower, eat, or do anything besides play or pay attention to my toddler, its screams, tantrums, and waterworks. But the very moment I stop what I'm doing, they pull away from me, want to be put down, slap at my face to get away, and I have no clue what to do next.

I have tried all sorts of things, but the reality is kids will be kids.

Tip: I watched an episode of Oprah, UGH yes, I admit I am one of those Oprah watching moms. Its not a daily affair, but I happen to catch an episode focused on moms, and all the guilt free confessions they wanted to make on Oprah. I was floored by the things I heard. Frankly, I would never openly admit some of the things I heard these women make, but I couldn't fault them because it was simply their truth. Their means of freely expressing their regrets. One parent admitted she once hadn't bathed her 3 children for more than a month. Another, admitting to wearing her child's pull ups on a road trip to prevent from stopping for restroom break. Another woman admitted the sight of her child annoyed her for the first 2 months of that child's life. Another mother stated she cried everyday for 3 years with regrets of having become a parent in the first place. I mean I was floored. By no mens am I a goody 2 shoes. I've had my share of mishaps when it comes to child rearing, but here is the bottom line...

You are first and foremost human. You deserve to give yourself a break. You can't do it all. I have to teach myself this everyday. I can only do my best. There is no such thing as the perfect parent and as much as I would like to be a combination of clare huxable& june cleaver, I realize I'm going to have my Marge simpson, and peggy from Married With Children days, or moments. Once my child is old enough to go to school, I'll be able to go back to work, and stop having to rely on my spouse for money to do what I need to do.

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