Tips for the wise .... never ever date a guy with kids & never ever marry a guy with kids

So, this morning started out ok, but the obnoxious women in omy spouse's life really make it hard to deal with its impact on our marriage.  His mom calls every 2 hours, to talk about ....I haven't got the slightest idea.  Then there's his sister whom he and she call perpetually throughout the day to discuss everything in their lives, then there's the babymama.  UGH, how do I describe this relationship?  There's a lingering persistence and an annoyance, and the painful sense that this woman hold more respect from him than I do. They plan his daughter's arrival, and her future which involves her being here with me and my children, and I have no say so as to how this will impact our lives.  Are all guys like this?  Probably not, but one runs the risk of dealing with this sort of problem when they involve themselves with a man that had kids prior to the marriage.  And unless he's a widow, you sadly are stuck with that other woman, his former lover being a part of his life forever. What's even worse is my spouse has maintained a friendship with each of his ex girlfriends.  I have made it clear how much I disapprove but he just hides his deceit with passwords on cell accounts, and bank accounts.  He actually still has a bank account with his babymama, where he and I don't have that.  My 2nd child is due in 2 days and the way things have been going, I don't really know how much longer this relationship will last because, there's no trust, and he doesn't respect me as his wife.  Have I mentioned how much I resent me, and hate myself for making the mistake of ever having been involved with him?