Who is at fault for my short comings?

I know I have no one but myself to blame for the horrible mistakes I've made. I knew my spouse was ass when I met him but decided to continue the relationship anyway. When he hit me the first time I stayed. Didn't really make him work hard for forgiveness. When he did it again, I left but came back. When he did it again,  I tried to fight back but lost all dignity, got some bruises in this process, and had the cops called as he tried to pretend to be the victim. When I moved away from the state I was familiar with, I had no one to blame. When I pleaded to be heard and no one would listen I cut them off. Now I'm lonely and dejected. Who's fault is it I have no money? Who's fault is it that I have been stagnant since marrying this Baffoon? Who fault is when he got of paying his half for the wedding reception, and to save face my parents picked up the tab? Who's fault was it when he refused to provide the kids with medical insurance when he decided to open this waste of time business, so you put ur kids on welfare? Who's fault is it that you can't seem to accomplish anything? Who's fault is it that you have no exit or escape plan even after 5 years of torture? Who's fault is it you have no money to your name? Who's fault is it you can't name nor call your kids the name u always wanted? Who's fault is it that you have a child with the condition you dreaded even though you knew you had the same trait? Who's fault is it the appeals judge believed him and not you? Lord why me?
Who can I blame for all my failure?