The ups and downs

Every marriage has its ups and downs, but what happens when the marriage is in a perpetual state of conflict? What happens when things are always bad? Then what? Do you throw in the towel and give up on everything? Do you give up on everyone? How do you avoid the perpetual turbulence when it is created and maintained by one person that you can't separate from? Do you simply walk away from everything and everyone that is associated with that person? Including kids? How does one build an environment that festers habitual hatred rather than compassion? I've been living with these questions for a very long time. Repeatedly asking myself, is it me? What do I do? Why can't I make any headway? I can't get a handle of what it is. But I know at some point it must come to an end. Because whatever festers under, will bubble over into something more powerful than imaginable. God puts people in our lives for a reason. He gives us free will to move forward, move on, or turn back. I must do something to improve the state of my being. Find happiness. How? And Where? Sigh!